Assess Your Life

Part 1 of 5: Assess Your Life

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   Start a journal. Write about the things that are bothering you in your own life. It may be obvious, or you may need to write a journal for several weeks to see what is bothering you.
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   Talk to someone else. Sometimes, the act of expressing yourself to another can give you an in depth view into what you want and need.
   • Consider booking several appointments with a counselor, if you do not want to talk to family and friends about improving your life.
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   List the areas of your life, such as social, work, spiritual, family, leisure, health, community and charity. Decide if you are happy with these aspects of your life. Getting a life usually means creating a balance of all of these things.
   • Consider the phrase "Everything in Moderation." Reduce activities that are not done in moderation for a better balance.
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   Brainstorm ways to expand areas that may be lacking. For example, make a list of a few charities you would like to inquire about or a sports class you've been wanting to try.
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   Take a pause. Understand that getting a life can mean doing less or letting go of control.
   • If this is something you struggle with, try to make more time for doing less. This can actually add to your sense of well being and life appreciation.
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   Reassess your life every few months. Write in your journal and decide if your life is more fulfilling with the changes you have made.
   • Give yourself time to change your life. Make small changes over a year. After a year is over, you should have a better idea of what makes you happy.

Part 2 of 5: Life Plans

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   Practice letting go of the things you cannot control.
   • Every time you think of something that you cannot control, write it on a piece of paper. Place it in a box and move on. Letting go of stressful situations or people will allow you to work the things you can control.
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   Live in the present. Think about how you will make today better, instead of always working toward a future goal.
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   Do something new every week. You may not know what you love to do, if you haven't tried leisure activities or social activities for a while.
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   Learn something new. Take a class online or in person. A lifelong learning center can provide an inexpensive opportunity to learn photography, social media or another skill you've been wanting to master.

Part 3 of 5: Work Limits

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   Do not work on weekends. Make sure you have 2 days per week to devote to yourself and/or your family. Make the working weekend something that is abnormal, not normal.
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   Turn off electronic devices when you get home. Ask your family to do the same for several hours per day, so that you can connect.
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   Take a risk at work. Volunteer for something or go the extra mile on a project. Showing initiative and using more of your intellect can make work more fulfilling.
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   Go for the promotion, transfer or work from home option. If you can apply for something new, perhaps a change will make all the difference.

Part 4 of 5: Spiritual/Charitable Life

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   Define what "spiritual" means to you. It does not necessarily mean religion, but it can. Set aside some time to connect with nature, religion, or something else that feels bigger and more powerful than yourself.
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   Volunteer for a charity. Donate your time, rather than your money, and connect with people who need your help. Studies have shown that volunteering for a charity can make you happier, improve empathy and make you feel fulfilled.
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   Pick a single charity to get involved in. Instead of spreading yourself too thin over many projects or organizations, choose 1 to get deeply involved in.
   • Learning to say "No" when people ask you to volunteer your time is also a valuable lesson to learn. Do volunteer work because you want to, not because you feel shamed into doing it by someone else. This is part of understanding what you want most in life.
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   Build your relationships and support system. Pick at least an hour a week where you can interact with people who are important to you without distractions from work. This will increase your mental and spiritual well being.

Part 5 of 5: Health Goals

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   Get exercise. Working your heart and muscles for at least 30 minutes will actually help you live healthier and longer. Try some of these ideas to improve your physical life.
   • Plan outdoor and adventurous activities with your family. Make exercise fun several nights a week or on the weekend. Go hiking, biking, explore your local city on foot or play a sport.
   • Join an adult sport league or active hobby group. If you miss being part of a team, join a soccer, kickball or basketball league. Most cities and suburbs have many options, and they schedule games after work and on weekends.
   • Try a new workout. If you usually go to the gym, try new classes or get outside to walk or run several days a week. Break up your routine.
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   Walk in nature. This activity is physical, spiritual and good for the mind. If you can take a break halfway through the work day to walk, you may actual be better at problem solving in the afternoon.
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   Get comfortable with your body. If you have a weight loss goal, split it into manageable goals throughout the year. Talk to your counselor or journal, so that you can learn to be comfortable in your own skin.
   • Getting a life may mean being less hard on yourself. Whether it is your weight, work goals, personal goals or something else, try not to define your life by anyone else's terms.
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   Focus on sleep. Give yourself 8 hours plus an hour to get ready and an hour to wake up. The result can be a relaxed, happier self. 

thanks to:  http://www.wikihow.com/Get-a-Life